10 Do’s and Don’ts
Hello all of you wonderful people and welcome to the next dating advice blog. I’m just going to jump straight in and as you can see from the title this is some do’s and don’ts of the dating world. These were compiled from your answers after replying to my social media requests.
So here are the 10 do’s and don’ts of dating,
- Let things flow naturally,
I like this one and it is really important to take into account when you’re are at the beginning stages of dating. Don’t force it to go somewhere. Just take the time to get to know one another first and it will be so much easier. You will have the time you need to find out if this person is someone you want to pursue a relationship with.
- When going on a date dress appropriately for the location,
This is something that is so important and is a bit difficult to ACTUALLY pin down. I do however think I have something that can help.
For men always wear a shirt and smart shoes, then you have a choice of trousers dependent on the location. For the ladies check out this post about first date outfit inspo.
- Have at least 5 conversation topics thought of before you go on a date,
Again, this is a great tip as conversation can become awkward or dry sometimes during a date. It can be daunting being out with someone you may not actually know. Having a few topics to mind will really help you feel more prepared and also help you out of any awkward conversation.
- Don’t talk about your ex,
Now, I’m sure most people are going to be put off if their date is chatting on about their ex. It’s firstly really disrespectful and also will hinder any likeliness of a continued relationship. This is because you sound like you’re still caught up in someone else. Also if asked about an ex I would reply politely and use one of your ‘topics to mind’ to change the conversation.
- Be honest,
This is one of the ones easier said than done ones. Most of us don’t like to hurt other people. However, if after dating someone for a while and you know it’s not going to work tell them. Find a nice way, of course, but never string someone along.
Also be honest about what you expect from a relationship. Maybe not on the first date but 100% you make sure to know where people stand on families, marriage, and all that jazz.
- Put the phone away,
I think this is one we can all agree on! If you’re not interested don’t be there but certainly, don’t sit and ignore a date messing on your phone. It’s understandable if you need to have your phone to hand because of children or even some work commitments would probably be ok. I would suggest stating before hand that it may happen though and keep it as brisk as possible if it does go off.
- Be confident and make the first move,
That’s not to say to go flying in genitals first! However, if you feel that the night went really well and the other person is giving you ‘the signs’ to go in for a kiss. For example stopping to talk to you aaaaaa lot as you’re saying goodnight. Then I say go for it! Even if they pull away it is not the end of the world and you probably know where you stand. This also goes for asking someone on a date you should go for it!” That cute guy/girl you just keep bumping into? Invite them for a coffee if or when they have time? You’d really like to take them out some time would it be ok to get their number? The worst thing that can happen is they say no and you simply say ok, have a nice day. Or they might say ‘I have a boyfriend/girlfriend’, then you say ‘Oh of course you do, sorry. He/she is a very lucky person, have a nice day’.
That’s it! Honestly, it is just having the confidence to do it first that can be hard but you can find it!
- Throw the ‘Perfect Partner’ Check List out the window,
This is because they don’t exist. What you’re asking for there is actually a perfect human and they don’t exist either.
Don’t put up with less than your worth but no guy is ever going to not tell fart jokes, or leave the toilet seat up, or pretend to listen to you and complain when you ‘didn’t tell them’. Women are not going to start being ready in 5 minutes, they are not going to stop being stupid and embarrassing when drunk with their besties. Nor will she stop lying to you about how much those shoes cost!
These are all terrible generalizations but what I mean is we all have our flaws all of us.
- Listen to your date,
This is not just for the purpose of having your chance to talk again. Actually listen to them and perhaps ask a follow-up question to show your interest in the person. This will also help you to get to know the person better and that always a bonus.
- Ask for that second date,
Again this is a confidence thing but please ask for that 2nd date if it went well. Just a simple ‘I’d love to do this again’ or ‘I had fun I’d love for us to go out again some time’. However, just go for it especially when you have nothing to lose!!
Well, my loves I hope this helps in your dating escapades! If you’re struggling to find that date that is worth while why not try out some of these great sites if they’re in your area.
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Lots of Love,