Dating Over 40

Top 5 Tips

By the time you’re hitting 40 we expect to be living the fairy tale right?

Long-term partner, great house, great job and still have the energy of a 21-year-old. However, in our world of fast communication, fast cars and fast romance this isn’t the case for most people.

At this time of life, you find the search for a partner becomes more of a passive want than a necessity. You know who you are, what you want and more importantly what you don’t want. So here are top 5 tips I have put together using your comments.

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  1.  Know what you want,
    This is pretty self-explanatory. If you’re only looking for a casual relationship make sure this is made aware. If you’re looking for something serious then make that known. However, most people would prefer an investment into the relationship for the long term. For your relationships to work you need to know what you want and that needs to be the same for the other person.
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  2. Quit the dating Games,
    That’s right! Stop playing the hard to get angle! If you’re texted don’t purposely wait to text back. Be up front and set the precedent for communication in your relationship. We’re not teens anymore and need to be more upfront to get what we want.
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  3. Be your own person,
    The thing about dating in this age bracket is that the people know who are they are. They have built up interests and hobbies. Important friends who have been there long before you. You need to make sure you are your own person. That you can have your ‘Me’ time and so can the other person. You’re in their life but not the centre of it. Be independent that is important.
  4.  Get/have your shit together,
    Probably one of the most important subjects on this list. You NEED to have your shit together. We are talking somewhere to live, an income and a stable life. When we are looking for a companion we not looking to add child-adults to the mix. We all like to care for a partner but don’t want to be feeling like a parent to them. So get and keep your life together.
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  5. Understand
    So this time of life brings the joys of adult children you thought you got rid of but they still keep needing you. Friends who want to catch up and if you’re dating a partner who needs time.
    Learn to be a little more understanding that although a partnership may be in place that you are not the be all and end all. This person had a life before you and that shouldn’t need to be halted to make you feel ok. They have chosen to have you in their life as just that, an active choice.

Overall though, we all just want the same thing. Loyalty, love and laughter. Someone to connect with and have fun. To build with and make a future. If you’re struggling to find this on your own why not try the following sites for a little step ahead. Senior DatingTayside DatingStaffordshire Dating AgencyGuernsey Dating Agency or the Gloucester Dating Agency.

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I hope these 5 tips can help you in your dating. What tips would you give? Let us know in the comments below and I will see you soon.

Lots of Love,
Tahnee xxx

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