Top Tips For
In today’s world, we all move sooooo fast. From fast food to internet, cars and so much more. The other thing people tend to rush nowadays is relationships. People are moving in together really quickly and our lives in general move at a much quicker pace.
I am not by any means saying that this is a bad thing and for a small majority it may work out. However, for most, it doesn’t.
So today I am sharing my top 5 tips when moving in together and there are a number of reasons. The first is because in moving in together is one of the most testing things in a relationship. There is no more pretence or pretending to be someone you’re not. Bad habits and annoyances are soon rife. You may need some survival tips so here my top 5 tips when moving in together.
Compromise is Key
This couldn’t be truer but what does it actually mean? Well for a start you need to keep in mind this is both of people’s home now. Regardless of who was living there before. If you lived there alone it can be hard to share your space. You can put strategies in place to help this. One major one being making some space. I’m not just talking a drawer and a bit of bathroom space. Try to make space for some of their more personal belongings they may like to put around. Pictures or space you know they will appreciate like a book corner. Show them that you want this to be their home as well.
Arguments Will Happen
So, living in such close proximity to another person can bring about arguments. It is not unusual for this to happen when you first move in with someone. Bad habits WILL arise and my main tip here is to pick your battles. Yes, you read that right! We’re all humans and we all have bad habits. It is also a lot easier to focus on other people’s annoyances than your own. So pick your battles. Most guys leave the seat up and women leave their crap everywhere. But don’t be picking up clothes on the bedroom floor. You’re their partner not their mum and they are not a teenager.
Keep Romance in The Routine
One huge factor that is lost is romance. In the mundane routine of works, bills cleaning and more general life romance can be last on the list. When you first move in together you have a rare opportunity to keep the romance alive. Running your other half a nice bath or cooking them a great meal. Even arrange a night out but make sure you keep romance in the routine.
If you can do this then you have a much better chance of surviving the harder times in your relationship.
Get Recordable TV
Now, I know this may seem so trivial and small but I promise it is key to a happier life (lol). I mean there is nothing nicer than snuggling up in front of one of your favourite programmes (here’s looking at you Stranger Things). However, when you first move in together you both want to polite still and kind. This is when the following scenario happens, “So what shall we watch tonight?” …. ” Oh! I’m not sure babe what do you want to watch?” “I don’t know either. Shall we just watch this?” …..”yeah, ok then”.
This will then lead to you missing chunks of your favourite series and if you happen to live with a tv hog. I do! Then it is a must have because some of the crap he watches!! This may not seem pivotal but it’s sometimes so needed.
Designate the Chores
This may seem a little weird but this one is preempting any fights that would occur if you didn’t. So, when the discussion arises about the ins and outs of moving in together. Bills and responsibilities, all the boring adulting. You NEED to include what responsibilities around the house belong to who.
This way in 6 months time you will not be having an argument about “You don’t help me enough around the house.”
It also shows straight away what are and you’re partner are expecting from each other. You may find your partner expected you to stay home and they work? They may expect to stay home whilst you work. You may or may not be delighted by this. None of that is the point. What is the point is that it’s these conversations that will determine if you are both wanting and aiming towards the same outcome, together? Which is the point right?
There are my top 5 tips for moving into together my loves and I hope they help. If you’re finding it hard to even get on the dating ladder maybe it’s time to try online dating? Maybe West Midlands Dating, Oxfordshire Dating, Fife Dating, Single Women In Warwickshire or Kent Dating. Also, as none of us like our time wasted. If you’re looking for something more casual you can check out No Strings Dating.
What are your top tips you can give when moving in with each other? Let us know in the comments below.
Lots of Love,