The Dating Game

What Am I Doing Wrong?

As we all know trying to find ‘THE ONE’ is like finding an ant in a haystack. However, could you be doing something to sabotage your own chances at love? We tend to only think of what the other person is doing wrong but could there be something that we are doing that is ruining our chances at that happy ever after?

Here are 5 things you may be doing that are self-destructing your relationships. Things you may be thinking that are getting in the way of the important stuff. So, what are doing wrong and how can you fix it?

Too Fussy


Now, I am not saying that by any means you should lower your standards to the point of no return. But we are all known for expecting too much from other humans and having a requirements lists for potential partners. Is your list realistic? Is it too long? Does he really HAVE TO HAVE ‘piercing blue eyes’ and a height minimum? If you know you have this imaginary list that is too long than where can you narrow it down? Yes, he needs to be independent but he can be shorter than 6 foot. Compromise is key and you may have chucked some really great guys just because of these lists. Just get to know someone before you start marking off those checkpoints. Why not try Dumfries Dating and get to know someone before starting something more serious. This way you can give the list to someone else to sort through (lol).

Thinking You Don’t Deserve It

This is soooooo important. I have noticed that a lot of people self-sabotage their relationships because secretly, deep down, they don’t feel like they deserve it. They don’t deserve the love or affection. They don’t deserve to have someone to tell they are beautiful as they don’t feel it. Then, in turn, they start to question it all and, sadly, it ends up ruining the relationship. But I am here to tell you that you are worth it my lovely. The compliments, the kisses, the love, the time, the attention. You really do deserve it no matter if you have thick thighs or no boobs. Wobbly tum or jiggly bum. We ALL deserve love so make sure you’re allowing yourself to be loved. Why not check out Sheffield singles if you are ready for the love but are struggling to find someone. Online dating can be a good way of putting time into a relationship without any physicality. For some people, this can be so helpful.

Not Looking in the Right Places for The Right People


This is the most common mistake people make and wonder why their relationships are not working. Finding people in the wrong places and still steaming full steam ahead is a big problem I see. If it doesn’t fit, it doesn’t fit. You can’t fit a square peg into a round hole (no pun intended).
But I see so many people drowning in relationships where both parties want completely different things from life. Both short and long-term but they force it and force it. Then wonder why it all implodes on itself.
All of this stems from the fact you are dating the wrong person. Check out these best dating sites to help avoid this. It does show you that you need to look beyond an initial physical attraction to something more. If it’s not there and that’s what you want, cut loose and say why. Just don’t force it to the point of hating people!

Not Changing Your Routine


Finding a suitable partner can be difficult. Especially with the mundane 9-5 lives we all usually live. I mean if you’re not finding anyone within that routine. It is unlikely that the right person is going to just pop up in our life! Also, what if your the one who is meant to pop up in someone else’s life? The quickest and easiest way to do this would be to add a something new to your life. Go for a swim, hit the gym or go to a bookstore. The best thing about this approach is if you do find someone then you know you will have at least one shared interest between you. If you’re still struggling and if it’s local, then why not check out Manchester dating to make dating even easier.

Not Taking The Risk


Yes, it’s scary and something our whole being tells us not to do but sometimes in life, you have to take risks! Ask for the phone number of the cute girl from the gym. Smile at the cute coffee guy you like. I mean he’s the only reason you go there, cos the coffee is crap! You only get one go around on this crazy ride called life so live it, right? I can’t imagine any of us will get to the end of our lives wishing we had taken less risk. TAKE THAT RISK! It will be so worth it, even if you get a no. It’s only a no. If this approach isn’t working for you then you can try Suffolk dating as online dating can be an amazing tool.

So, are you unknowingly sabotaging your chances at love? Are you brave enough to let us know in the comments?
I really hope this helps some of you on your dating journeys as I know it can be a real struggle. Some people are fine being single and more power to you. Some people do not do so well without someone to call their own. I do hope these tips help.

Lots of Love

Tahnee xxx


5 Comments Add yours

  1. amiekay says:

    I think I have done all of these at one point or another. (Probably why I haven’t dated seriously in years!) Your advice about trying online dating is a good one, and something I think I will try once I’m back state-side.

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  2. I have heard so many girl friends talk about this, and I understand exactly what you mean. Finding a good relationship does require some effort. Luckily for me, I didn’t have to do anything. I just happened one fine day 😀

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    1. I agree. My partner and I met at school and now he’s stuck win me 😂😂😂


  3. Iva Ursano says:

    OH how I dread the dating scene. Here in Guatemala, I live in a small expat town and the pickings are slim. I pretty much have to wait until Mr. Not So Bad blows into town!

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    1. 🙈🙈🙈 this is why online dating could be your go to!


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